Disgust and our sense of Belonging

For over a year I have been working on what the emotion ‘disgust’ means in my life. I figured out a while back that this was an under-regulated emotion for me and I knew it tied into my trauma and sense of self. I often talk about the 2 faces of disgust. The first face…

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FAQ: What is inner child work?

There are variations to how ‘Inner Child Work’ and the concept of the ‘Inner Child’ are described. TFBB follows on from the theories that state that we all have an Inner Child and this is often the part of us that needs to heal when it comes to trauma from our childhood and within our…

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FAQ: What is ‘Attachment’?

Attachment is a term used to describe the bond between parent and child. The child does not always have to attach to a parent; basically this bond occurs between the child and their primary caregiver. The primary caregiver is the main adult providing care to the child and with whom the child can bond with….

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FAQ: What is a ‘core’ emotion?

Core emotions are a bit like the baseline emotions. You can think of them a bit like you would the primary colours. Underneath all these core emotions lie secondary or associated emotions. For instance ‘jealousy’ sits under fear and ‘irritation’ sits under anger. If you are able to identify the core emotions when looking at…

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FAQ: What is Emotional Regulation?

Emotional regulation is basically the words we use for managing emotions as they come up for us. In parenting, we are teaching children how to do this. We teach this by naming the emotion so that they recognize what they are feeling. We validate their feelings to show them that whatever they feel is ok….

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What causes tantrums?

Tantrums are normal in young children and are not something to fear or be concerned about as parents. There are also ways to manage tantrums using emotional regulation but, despite all of your best efforts, you can always expect to have a few tantrums at various times. The reason for this is around your child’s…

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Is spanking harmful to children?

The quick answer to this is ‘yes’. Spanking and physical punishment is a very controversial topic and one that gets me into many debates with people. I believe the reason for this is due to a very deep and ingrained belief system that this form of discipline works. I also believe that people find it…

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If I don’t discipline my child, will they turn into a brat?

Every family is different and will have different ideas around what discipline actually is. We have been brought up to believe that discipline is a large part of parenting and that children need to be taught how to behave. This is not untrue but our ideas around our role in discipline and how we enforce…

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TFBB Did You Know?

Emotional regulation is not common knowledge yet and it is a reasonably new concept in parenting. We have done things naturally (often when following our instincts) but there is a big calling for people to understand and implement these new ways of parenting. Research backs it up, now it is time to learn these new…

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