TACKLE THE FEELINGS BEFORE THE BEHAVIOUR (#TFBB)
“Bringing Emotions Back!”
Founder/Practitioner: Miss Paula Taylor (MA Humanistic Psychotherapy; BAHons Psychology; BA)
- FOUNDATIONAL BELIEFS OF TFBB:
- SPIRITUALITY AND EMOTIONS:
TFBB aims to create awareness and educate people around the concept and importance of emotional regulation in early childhood. TFBB aims to teach people how to identify, process and release challenging emotions in both children and adults.
There are 6 core emotions common to ALL human beings. TFBB identifies these core emotions to be ‘Anger, Sadness, Fear, Disgust, Shame and Happiness’.
Underneath each emotion will sit a number of associated emotions. For example Jealousy and overwhelm fall under fear, pain and anguish fall under ‘sadness’ and so forth.
The way a person experiences each emotion will vary in relation to a number of factors. Some of these factors include personality, temperament, culture, gender, ethnicity, religion and life experiences.
Identifying the core emotion at the heart of an experience allows for a deeper understanding of the experience itself as well as understanding your own sense of self within it.
In order for an emotional trauma to be processed and released, it must be acknowledged and understood. The emotional trauma thus needs to be re-experienced fully in our conscious state and without resistance. This is like an emotional memory rather than a visual memory or dream – it is experiential. By understanding the emotional need (i.e. Fear), the person will understand or learn how to attend to it (i.e. Create emotional safety). Once this emotional need has been met, the emotion behind it is no longer needed and will be released organically.
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is a form of child abuse that is not overt and seldom intentional. As Dr Jonice Webb describes: Physical, sexual and emotional abuse occur when something is being done too you whereas emotional neglect occurs in the absence of something being done for you. CEN occurs when there is a failure to meet a child’s emotional needs. All abuse carries emotional neglect but not all emotional neglect coincides with abuse.
CEN creates an unhealthy relationship with one or more of our core emotions. People will thus develop coping mechanisms in order to manage their resistance to feeling a certain way. Coping mechanisms created to deal with CEN are often maladaptive and create problems for people later on in life. This is prominently seen in the area of relationships to both the self (self-worth) and others.
Children require emotional regulation in order to learn how to manage their emotions. A failure to regulate a child’s emotions may affect their developing mental and emotional health.
Children experience the world predominantly from their limbic systems or emotional part of the brain in their formative years. The cortex is not yet developed and thus children are unable to utilise higher cognitive functioning in their early years. Toddlers and young children are therefore unable to premeditate their behaviour until their cortex has developed further. Due to this inability to premeditate behaviour, ‘bad’ behaviour is understood to be an attempt to get emotional and/or other needs met.
Children require secure attachment relationships with one or both parents for optimum healthy development.
Children learn best from their attachment figures and these attachment figures or primary caregivers are in the best position to provide emotional regulation to their children. Parenting is vital for emotional regulation in children as children are unable to emotionally regulate themselves in their early years.
Children are resilient if given the right care and support. TFBB believes in early intervention in order to prevent childhood emotional neglect and mental health issues later on in life. Parents are the best people to help their children.
TFBB strongly believes that all trauma can be healed and healthy relationships to all emotions may be formed in all people. TFBB firmly believes that the key to healing lies within the emotional body.
I consider myself to be an empath and has always had a very high level of empathy. I use this empathy in all the work i do with families and individuals and people are often commenting on how i seem to know just what to say or do, particularly with children. I have developed a strong sense of intuition and successfully use my own emotional guidance system in my work with people at all times. I have and continue to develop my own spirituality in a number of ways. TFBB is all about ‘Bringing Emotions Back’ and this means building healthy relationships to all our emotions and inherently the self. This is what i believe spirituality to be at its essence and core – self-love, inner peace and acceptance of self and all other beings (we are all one, there is no separation fundamentally). The rest of what makes up your spirituality is entirely up to you – isn’t that a beautiful thing!
Shi aim to combine my academic and professional training and experience with her spiritual and metaphysical/spiritual development and experience to assist you with being conscious and awake in this world.
TFBB aims to provide free information and education around our emotions and the importance of emotional regulation.
TFBB Aims to provide parenting support around emotional regulation and will teach parents how to manage their children’s emotions.
TFBB aims to combat the symptoms of Childhood Emotional Neglect and break these cycles within families.
TFBB aims to encourage people to explore and challenge their own parenting and how they have been parented with curiosity, compassion and awareness.
TFBB aims to empower people to explore their own trauma and find meaning, healing and release.
TFBB aims to advocate against Fear based parenting such as physical punishment, isolation and humiliation/shame of children. TFBB advocates strongly against spanking or hitting children as a form of discipline.
TFBB aims to assist people in finding their own inner peace through self-acceptance and self-awareness.
TFBB aims to share information on a number of creative platforms in order to reach a wide and diverse network of people.
TFBB aims to be inclusive of all people and accepts feedback, suggestions and criticisms. TFBB will always strive to better itself and continue growing in the direction in which it will be most beneficial.
TFBB aims to work within the education system to join the movement to bring emotional regulation and family support into schools.